Improve your sexual quality of life today!

Recover from sexual trauma, anxiety, fear, and shame!

Romance and Reality utilizes holistic sex education and somatic coaching to work with you to achieve the communication and intimacy you desire in your relationship(s).

I work collaboratively with established providers to connect the gaps often found between traditional mental health therapy and physical therapy practices.

In service to the community, we provide ethical, inclusive, and confidential care with accessible options to fit every income.

I am Bailey Barmettler, CSE, CSSE, and I started Romance and Reality to tell you that sex doesn’t have to be a struggle!

Challenges I Address

  • Couples seeking ways to enhance their intimacy, passion, and confidence

  • Difficulty experiencing pleasure or desire

  • Recovering from sexual trauma

  • Empowering voice, choice, boundary-setting, and communicating authentic consent

  • Exploring who you are as an erotic being/ deciphering your sexual identity

  • Learning the anatomy of arousal

  • Exploring the Intersection of sex and Spirit

  • Changing habitual sexual roles or scripts

  • Learning the art of erotic touch/ massage for lovers

  • Being sexual with chronic pelvic pain, vulvodynia, or constrictions that inhibit sexual function (pregnancy, post-partum, ED, etc.)

  • Trauma-informed touch, including genital unwinding, genital mapping, & pelvic/genital scar tissue release

  • Experiencing & learning techniques for expanded arousal, or extended and multiple orgasms

  • Being sexual with a disability

  • Exploring power and surrender as aspects of sex play and pleasure

  • Building up basic Tantric, kink, fetish, BDSM, and other sensual knowledge and skills

  • Exploring erotic possibilities as a transgender person, or someone who wants to play with gender

  • Holistic pelvic & sexual care resources based upon current science that address physical, emotional, psychological, sexual, & spiritual​ wellbeing

Try a session for FREE to see if I’m right for you!

There’s no commitment, pressure, or obligation.

Testimonials

  • "Bailey has been truly patient, kind, supportive, and successful in helping me work through my PTSD on many levels. For anyone thinking of facing facing their traumas and fears, know that addressing them is the key to coming to terms and to moving forward. You wont be alone in doing this with Bailey. She is a caring and knowledgeable partner to guide you toward healing. I am so grateful for having met her, and for her assistance. She's truly changing my life for the better."

    ~ A.J. ~

  • “I highly recommend working with Bailey! She did such an amazing job making me feel comfortable and heard. Her insights about intimacy and communication were so helpful. She really wants to empower you to create the intimacy you dream of! This is a realm that often gets sidelined in relationships, but it’s so essential to address.”

    ~ Lisa and Joe ~

  • "The experience of somatic pleasure mapping was very positive, and I will recommend it to others! I was amazed by everything that I learned about myself. It is definitely something I would repeat, as I feel like I have acquired access to deeper parts of myself than I was aware of. I can also see the therapeutic benefits for women of all kinds. It has helped my partner and I to deepen our intimacy and maximize our pleasure."

    ~ Nat ~

  • "Bailey was caring and kind-hearted. She was easy for my husband to open up to, which I was the most worried about. Her information made sense and helped us to understand how it applied in the bedroom. We have some things to still work out, but as we practice our sexual communication skills our time in bed together has become more inviting."

    ~ Michelle ~

  • "Extremely informative pleasure mapping session. My partner and I really got to know each other better. I would definitely do this again and am already suggesting to my friends that they try it out."

    ~ Ben ~