About Romance and Reality…

Bailey Barmettler

Business Founder, Certified Holistic Sex Educator,

Certified Somatic Sex Educator & Somatic Body Worker

Sexual Trauma Recovery Specialist

Romance and Reality, Bailey Barmettler, Certified, Holistic, Somatic, Sex Educator, Sexologist, Sex Therapy, relationship coach, love addiction, codependency, trauma, PTSD, intimacy skill building, somatic bodywork.

I chose this work because it is meaningful to me, and because I couldn't find anyone offering it when I needed it most.

Having grown up in a highly abusive home, my nervous system knew only how to exist within debilitating anxiety, depression, and complex PTSD. I did the work — went to therapy, studied psychology, understanding why I was the way I was… yet something essential still remained out of reach. I struggled to feel pleasure and suffered with anorgasmia until I discovered somatic education and awareness work.

While talk therapy opened one door of understanding, walking through the door of somatic awareness transformed how I related to myself, my trauma, and the world around me. I stopped reacting and started responding. I stopped surviving and started thriving. I left an abusive marriage, untangled years of codependency, and learned what boundaries felt like from the inside out — not as rules, but as a felt sense of self.

That's when I knew what I was meant to do.

I went back to school and became the professional I once desperately searched for — someone who bridges the gap between traditional therapy, empowering education, and integrative somatic awareness practices.

I know what it feels like to be stuck, even when you're trying your hardest… to understand your trauma intellectually, yet still freeze or go numb.

That disconnect doesn't mean you're broken. It means your body hasn't been invited to integrate in the way it needs to.

That's what I'm here to help you with — so intimacy and sexuality feel safe, and you respond to life from your wisest self instead of your most wounded parts.

If any of this resonates, I'd love to meet you! I offer a FREE 45-minute consultation.

No commitment, no pressure, just a conversation.

Education and Credentials

  • Authentic Relating Training (ART) — Advanced interpersonal communication and connection skills | ART International, Level 1 & 2, 2025

  • Certified Holistic Sex Educator (CSE) — Comprehensive certification in human sexuality, pleasure, and trauma-informed sex education | Institute for Sexual Education and Enlightenment, 2022

  • Certified Somatic Sex Educator & Body Worker — Specialized training in healing trauma through somatic body awareness and nervous system regulation | Institute of Somatic Sex Educators, 2021

  • Wheel of Consent Completion Certificates — Foundational framework for understanding touch, consent, and embodied boundaries | School of Consent, 2020 & 2021

  • BA in Psychology, minor in Conflict Management | Colorado State University, 2011

My professional journey has included working directly alongside a pelvic floor physical therapist in a clinical setting, building relationships with licensed therapists, physical therapists, and wellness providers across Northern Colorado, and owning my own small business since 2019. As of April 2026, I have acquired over 2,500 logged hours in my field.

Book a consultation to see if I’m right for you!

No commitment, no pressure, just an informative conversation to make sure you feel confident and comfortable moving forward.

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Workshops, Talks, & Trainings

Bailey has been invited to speak, train, and present for a wide range of audiences, including mental health therapists, counselors, sex educators, pelvic floor physical therapists, sexual and holistic wellness providers, and brain injury survivors and their caregivers — both in person and online.

  • "Somatic Practices for Couples that Increase Safety, Curiosity, and Sensual Connection" — AASECT Mile High Chapter, June 2024

  • "Hidden Doorways to Sexual Healing: A Demonstration of Somatic Sexological Body Working for Therapists" — AASECT Mile High Chapter, April 2024

  • "The Healing Powers of Pleasure" — Love Your Brain, CO Spring Retreat 2024

  • "Common Libido Blockers for Women" — Insight Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy, April 2022

Whether you're organizing a professional training, a community wellness event, or a keynote, I bring education, lived experience, and genuine passion to every room I'm in. Reach out to discuss how I can customize a great experience for your audience.

¹ AASECT — American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists is the leading national professional organization in sexual health.

Testimonials

  • "Working with Bailey has been truly transformative. Her somatic approach helped me understand the connection between my body and emotions, uncover hidden patterns, and create lasting change. She combines deep insight with genuine care. I highly recommend her."

    ~ Jessica ~

  • "Bailey is a literal life-saver. She has been an incredible support in my journey towards healing. Bailey has helped me navigate through anxious attachment, codependency, and childhood trauma with sincere compassion and understanding. Her guidance has been invaluable and I have made tremendous progress in a relatively short amount of time. She is kind, compassionate and gentle, but will also be direct with you to facilitate real cognitive growth. Bailey has been the most influential therapist I have ever had the pleasure of working with and I would recommend her services without hesitation! She has literally saved my life!"

    ~ Elisa ~

  • "Bailey is incredibly empathetic and has so many great ideas for how to approach difficult topics and situations. I have done five sessions with her in the last year, a couple of which were with my partner, and she has helped us improve our relationship and communication immensely."

    ~ Kara ~

  • "Extremely informative pleasure mapping session. My partner and I really got to know each other better. I would definitely do this again and am already suggesting to my friends that they try it out."

    ~ Ben ~

  • "Bailey is always centered, compassionate, and incredibly knowledgeable. As a therapist myself, her use of somatics feels absolutely magical. Her body-work, insight, and conversations have been life-changing for me when it comes to intimacy and relationships. If you're looking into somatic practioners, look no further than Bailey!"

    ~ Juliana ~

  • "Bailey has been truly patient, kind, supportive, and successful in helping me work through my PTSD on many levels. For anyone thinking of facing facing their traumas and fears, know that addressing them is the key to coming to terms and to moving forward. You wont be alone in doing this with Bailey. She is a caring and knowledgeable partner to guide you toward healing. I am so grateful for having met her, and for her assistance. She's truly changing my life for the better."

    ~ A.J. ~

  • "I had several sessions with Bailey, and found her very caring and nurturing, and sometimes 'deep'. I left each session feeling 'filled', and ready for new challenges. I can recommend her work."

    ~ Steve ~

  • "Bailey is an excellent educator and wonderful person. Working with her has been more beneficial than I can put into words. She has helped us to make some of the best improvements of our lives."

    ~ Val ~

  • "The experience of somatic pleasure mapping was very positive, and I will recommend it to others! I was amazed by everything that I learned about myself. It is definitely something I would repeat, as I feel like I have acquired access to deeper parts of myself than I was aware of. I can also see the therapeutic benefits for women of all kinds. It has helped my partner and I to deepen our intimacy and maximize our pleasure."

    ~ Nat ~

  • "What can I say about Bailey you ask?... She saw me for who I was, identified with me and my trauma, made me feel genuine with her validation… You know how they say some super-heroes swoop in and save lives from catastrophic occurrences? -totally true! I respect and honor the intimacy she was able to provide in SUCH a warm yet, humble and still professional manner. When it comes to my sexual trauma, she compassionately explained things within an hour that put to rest stressors that were on the verge of ruining my life… My senses are no longer tingly and numb. My mind is no longer lost… She REALLY helped me. THANK YOU, Bailey!"

    ~ Tom ~

  • "Bailey was caring and kind-hearted. She was easy for my husband to open up to, which I was the most worried about. Her information made sense and helped us to understand how it applied in the bedroom. We have some things to still work out, but as we practice our sexual communication skills our time in bed together has become more inviting."

    ~ Michelle ~

  • “I highly recommend working with Bailey! She did such an amazing job making me feel comfortable and heard. Her insights about intimacy and communication were so helpful. She really wants to empower you to create the intimacy you dream of! This is a realm that often gets sidelined in relationships, but it’s so essential to address.”

    ~ Lisa and Joe ~

  • "Bailey has been truly wonderful, patient, kind, supportive and successful in helping me work through PTSD on many levels. For anyone thinking of facing facing their trauma, internal demons, and fears, know that you are not alone in wanting to avoid them, to push them under the rug, to deal with them later. But also know that addressing them is the key to coming to terms, and to moving forward. Don't go it alone, find a caring and knowledgeable partner to guide you. That partner is Bailey. I am so grateful for having met her, and for her assistance. She's truly changing my life for the better."

    ~ Anonymous Male Client ~

  • "Her presentation was on point! Bailey knows how to address normally taboo topics in a relaxed a humorous fashion. She engaged the audience with questions, projected herself well, and maintained a great pace throughout. The information was rich, useful, and digestible. It was obvious she took her audience and their needs/desires into consideration, as the majority of this audience is a caretaker for or lives with a tramatic brain injury. I could not recommend her more!"

    ~ Alicia P. ~

    “The Healing Powers of Pleasure” - Love Your Brain, CO Spring Retreat 2024

  • "Great presentation and resources! Now I can see the opportunity for more collaborative client efforts and a more embodied way of working holistically with sexual issues. Hope to see you continue these educational offerings!"

    ~ Mark Cunningham, LMFT ~

    “Hidden Doorways to Sexual Healing: A Demonstration of Somatic Sexological Body Working for Therapists” - AASECT Mile High Chapter, April 2024