Improve your sexual quality of life today!

Recover from sexual trauma, anxiety, fear, and shame!

Bailey Barmettler, the Certified Holistic Sex Educator's friendly and smiling face.

Romance and Reality utilizes holistic sex education and somatic coaching to work with you to achieve the communication and intimacy you desire in your relationship(s).

I work collaboratively with established providers to connect the gaps often found between traditional mental health therapy and physical therapy practices.

In service to the community, we provide ethical, inclusive, and confidential care with accessible options to fit every income.

I am Bailey Barmettler, CSE, CSSE, and I started Romance and Reality to tell you that sex doesn’t have to be a struggle!

Challenges  I  Address

  • Couples seeking ways to enhance their intimacy, passion, and confidence

  • Difficulty experiencing pleasure or desire

  • Recovering from sexual trauma

  • Empowering voice, choice, boundary-setting, and communicating authentic consent

  • Exploring who you are as an erotic being/ deciphering your sexual identity

  • Learning the anatomy of arousal

  • Exploring the Intersection of sex and Spirit

  • Changing habitual sexual roles or scripts

  • Learning the art of erotic touch/ massage for lovers

  • Being sexual with chronic pelvic pain, vulvodynia, or constrictions that inhibit sexual function (pregnancy, post-partum, ED, etc.)

  • Trauma-informed touch, including genital unwinding, genital mapping, & pelvic/genital scar tissue release

  • Experiencing & learning techniques for expanded arousal, or extended and multiple orgasms

  • Being sexual with a disability or medical complications

  • Exploring power and surrender as aspects of sex play and pleasure

  • Building up basic Tantric, kink, fetish, BDSM, and other sensual knowledge and skills

  • Exploring erotic possibilities as a transgender person, or someone who wants to play with gender

  • Holistic pelvic & sexual care resources based upon current science that address physical, emotional, psychological, sexual, & spiritual​ wellbeing

Try a session for FREE to see if I’m right for you!

There’s no commitment, pressure, or obligation.

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